i noe dis entry has been long overdued. aint got much to blog nowadays.
got me thinking bout something thou few wks ago.

seriously. how many of u mind dating a younger guy?
(dis only applies to females btw...)

wen i was younger, i used to think dat dating older guys were cool. especially those who are years above u. during my sec sch days, i had a galfren who dated a guy younger den her. she was in sec3, n him in sec2. n wenever dey are together, my mind is screaming, "OMG. HE'S WEARING SHORTS XIA.............................".

like seriously. thou i never mentioned it out loud (who am i to judge rite.....)

but those days, dating older guys were a 'thing' for us gals. ok. same age still considered ok la.
but younger??

no way.

now dat im older, i've come to realise dat age dun reali matter. S-E-R-I-O-U-S-L-Y.

AND dis is SO NOT becoz im wif one rite now, but becoz now, i fil dat chemistry between both parties is even more important den anything else.

not to mention dat most older guys dun act their age and are juz egoistic bastards, loving e control dey haf over us younger weaklings.

from experience, being engaged to an older guy has taught me a very desirable lesson i will never forget. even thou he was older den me, and "supposedly" to be more matured, sadly he wasnt at all. in fact, my greatest disappointment was him. sometimes i fil like im his toy puppet which he controls within his powers. urgh.

and amidst e breakup of my engagement, i met someone new. someone younger den me by 7mths. but he dun look younger; nor does he behave like a 12-yr-old kid. in fact, he was quite matured in his thinking, even prepared in taking our relationship to greater levels.

a mth plus if us being together, he introduced me to his family. and i was warmly welcomed to be part of dem. (most guys wuld take half to a year, and even den still tries to put off meeting e family....)

amazed?


dun be.

younger guys has been proven to be even more sensitive to female's feelings and needs. thou sometimes it felt like u're leading e relationship, it may not always be a bad thing.

in fact, dun we all love e power we haf over our guys? =)

knowing irul has thot me dat being wif younger guys dun necessarily mean a bad thing. e chemistry dat we haf is amazing; something not many people haf. n even thou we're apart for dis period of time, juz by corresponding thru letters is enuf to noe how we truly feel about each other.

based on other experiences too, i've been out wif some other younger guys in e past. n yes, dey haf proven to be even more caring and sensitive den most older guys are.


so e next time wen a younger guy approaches u, dun diss him for his age. yet. instead, find dat chemistry between u, n work from der.

BUT. if he's still acting like his age plus being super moronic, den big NO-NO. and if he looks his age (which wuld make him look younger den u) den forget it. u wuld end up looking like e older sister and a younger brother out on a shopping trip.

eeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwww.

e cons thou, i might add is dat dey are not really ready for a committed relationship yet. serious issues-talks dun work wif dem. dey juz simply dun bother. dey are exactly wat u nid wen e time comes for u to fil young all over again. juz fun n games all day. stress-free. it gets frustrating at times but coz dey are 'younger', dis tings dun matter till years later.


and unfortunately, we gals mature faster (or so dey say), so we tend to get all worked up and motherly over commitment issues once in awhile.

believe me. 8 out of 10 gals are e ones asking their guys wen culd dey finally tie e knot or wer is e relationship going.


mind u. i said 8 out of 10, so 2 are still witholding their dignity as females.



oh well. we cant help it; we're females! we're inborn wif dis irritating but useful traits ey...we plan wat our future holds, while guys go ahead wif wat dey tink is best at e mo...n use their brains later.



bummer. i noe.



someone told me before dat wen u're looking for a life partner, make sure he's 7 yrs older den u. coz dat seems to be e right wavelength for our overdeveloped-self n their slowly- making-it maturity levels.



hmph.



somehow, im beginning to realize this theory is crap. coz ive seen it wif my own eyes hw bullshitty older guys truly are. besides, dey look far too old for e gal, making dem look like a "sugar daddy" kinda relationship.

urggh. not exactly a match made in heaven rite??

haix. still.

at e end of e day, it's still e chemistry dat i b searching for.

n yesh truly...dat chemistry has kept us going strong thruout e storms which came crashing upon our helpless souls... yet together, we're holding on and looking forward to e day e sun will shine brightly upon us once again...

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